• A look in my mirror

    The photo above is a big mirror for me.

    See that look of smugness, of self-importance, of grandiosity?

    Yeah, me too… now. 😳😐😞

    I’ve spent a lot of my life thinking that I knew better than other people, including, sometimes, that I knew […]

  • How can I meet my own needs?

    It’s not their problem to solve or their need to meet. It’s yours.

    When I find myself wanting someone else to do something for me, especially when it’s related to some emotional need (attention, validation, love, acceptance, compassion, etc.) that I […]

  • My Son Wants an iPad …

    The optimistic opener: my son, almost 6, wants to be a vet when he grows up.

    The downturn at the end: his “one wish” is for an iPad on the weeks that he spends with me. (The backstory: it’s his birthday […]

  • Let’s change the way we respond to pain

    “Let the pain make you a leader, not a monster.” —Sunil Sindhwani

    When we get hurt, we so often respond out of self-protection, fear, vengeance, and pure impulse, rather than slowing down to notice that we’ve been hurt, validating our own […]

  • Step forward. Good, now keep moving.

    Most people’s lives are a hodgepodge of their parents’ ideas, the distorted beliefs of a hollow and profoundly malnourished society, and their own good, but misguided intentions.

    That hodgepodge—the soup we call “normal life”—tastes awful but we rarely say that out […]

  • I Feel Hopeful About the Future

    Hope is the way through the narrow gate.

    I’m a skeptic, and I’m skeptical of myself, too.

    I think that’s a good thing.

    I don’t believe everything I think.

    But sometimes in life, it’s hard to know what to think, or what to believe, […]