• 80/20 Rule for Emotional Needs

    For as long as I can remember, I have looked to other people to meet my needs for acceptance, love, and support.

    When I was a child, my parents didn’t have the emotional capacities that little Dallas so badly wanted […]

  • Heal and Love … Here and Now

    “The only place that you can love or heal or awaken is here and now, the eternal present.” —Jack Kornfield I’ve read books and deep-and-meaningful quotes along these lines many times, but it has only been recently that it has […]

  • Are you a brave person?

    “You cannot swim for new horizons until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.” —William FaulknerGenerally speaking, I haven’t thought of myself as a “brave” man.

    I’m good in crises, and I’m willing to do really hard […]

  • My solution to loneliness is…

    “Loneliness does not come from having no people around, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”—Carl Gustav JungOne of the most influential experiences of my […]

  • Here’s what you can expect from me

    These days, almost every time I post something on Instagram, I lose followers. Sometimes, a hundred at a time.

    I imagine that’s because the kind of ideas I’m sharing don’t match what those particular people wanted and expected from me.

    Most […]

  • The antidote to boredom

    “We are perishing for want of wonder, not for want of wonders.”—G.K. ChestertonIn a world where we can look up pictures of almost anywhere or anything in seconds, ask Google or Wikipedia to explain what would otherwise be felt as […]

  • The wisdom of quitting

    Persistence and commitment are admirable, but sometimes it’s time to let go. There’s life-changing wisdom in quitting when you know it’s the right thing to do. And even when you don’t.

    Jobs, relationships, projects, businesses … you name it […]

  • Don’t settle for false safety

    “I used to feel so alone in the city. All those gazillions of people and then me, on the outside. Because how do you meet a new person? I was very stunned by this for many years. And then I […]

  • The cartography of living well …

    A road map is a gift.

    Turn-by-turn directions is a gift of handcuffs.Living well is a long series of politely declining someone else’s driving directions, and instead examining the map for yourself, figuring out where you are and then where […]