• Here’s what you can expect from me

    These days, almost every time I post something on Instagram, I lose followers. Sometimes, a hundred at a time.

    I imagine that’s because the kind of ideas I’m sharing don’t match what those particular people wanted and expected from me.

    Most […]

  • The antidote to boredom

    “We are perishing for want of wonder, not for want of wonders.”—G.K. ChestertonIn a world where we can look up pictures of almost anywhere or anything in seconds, ask Google or Wikipedia to explain what would otherwise be felt as […]

  • The wisdom of quitting

    Persistence and commitment are admirable, but sometimes it’s time to let go. There’s life-changing wisdom in quitting when you know it’s the right thing to do. And even when you don’t.

    Jobs, relationships, projects, businesses … you name it […]

  • Don’t settle for false safety

    “I used to feel so alone in the city. All those gazillions of people and then me, on the outside. Because how do you meet a new person? I was very stunned by this for many years. And then I […]

  • The cartography of living well …

    A road map is a gift.

    Turn-by-turn directions is a gift of handcuffs.Living well is a long series of politely declining someone else’s driving directions, and instead examining the map for yourself, figuring out where you are and then where […]

  • What makes a good listener?

    “We don’t hear what people said; we imagine what they meant.” —Byron KatieI’m an expert at hearing things that people didn’t say.

    I don’t mean that I’m exceedingly perceptive or psychic or even skilled at reading the subtext of a […]

  • Do your work and stop throwing elbows

    When we are fast asleep, we are generally placid, perhaps even completely still and silent.

    If our dream starts to collapse, or we are subtly or substantially bumped towards waking, we might start to stir, or even thrash wildly about. We […]

  • A look in my mirror

    The photo above is a big mirror for me.

    See that look of smugness, of self-importance, of grandiosity?

    Yeah, me too… now. 😳😐😞

    I’ve spent a lot of my life thinking that I knew better than other people, including, sometimes, that I knew […]