• My Secular Sabbath, Again

    Warning: this gets personal.

    In the fall of 2014, I stepped way off track. For several preceding years, I had practiced what I called a “secular Sabbath,” a time of peace and connection with myself, nature, and people that mattered. At […]

  • How Is Your Heart Doing?

    “In many Muslim cultures, when you want to ask them how they’re doing, you ask: in Arabic, Kayf haal–ik? or, in Persian, Haal-e shomaa chetoreh? How is your haal?

    What is this haal that you inquire about? It is the transient […]

  • What I Want From Technology

    It’s really difficult to be distracted when you’re in a beautiful place like this one (in Utah’s Canyonlands, where I spent this past weekend). Natural environments easily lend themselves to being present and simply immersed in the experience. Without billboards […]

  • Bitter Medicine

    Sometimes, a dose of your own medicine tastes pretty bitter.

    A friend sent me this card last week amidst an ongoing, very frank conversation about my busy schedule and limited availability (physical, mental and emotional) for meaningful connection. Here’s the reality: […]

  • Exercise Can Make You Less Healthy

    This is me in a COLD glacier-fed lake in the Canadian Rockies in 1991. Growing up, my parents never talked about exercise or calories, but they did deeply value health. We spent a lot of time working in our family’s […]

  • Vulnerability Makes You Stronger

    A dear friend and I have an ongoing conversation about vulnerability, which is a word that usually invokes images of touchy-feely self-help stuff and psychotherapy sessions. That’s certainly a quick and easy way to dismiss it. In North America, where […]

  • I Am Not A Guru

    There’s an interesting thing that humans do: we mentally connect things that may or may not be actually connected. In our ancient past, pattern recognition was key to our survival. If a predator attacked you at dusk a few days […]

  • Sit With Your Loneliness

    “Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.” —Douglas Coupland

    “When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely… Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of […]