• People Are Medicine

    Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.” —Bessel van der Kolk

    I have an awesome ongoing discussion series with my insightful […]

  • I’m Tired of Texting

    There, I said it: I’m tired of texting. I have a wonderful group of friends, some of whom are spread all over the world, and some of whom live close to me. The world is pretty crazy these days. Everyone […]

  • Porn, Shame, and Doughnuts: Part 1

    With the arrival of the internet and smartphones in the developed world (and increasingly in the developing world), pornography is available all the time, everywhere, often for free. I happen to live in Utah, which has some of the highest […]

  • Live Like A Mighty River

    In 1986, 23 years after the death of Sylvia Plath, celebrated poet Ted Hughes wrote the following letter to their 24-year-old son, Nicholas, advising him to embrace his “childish self” so as to feel more deeply and live more richly. […]

  • My Secular Sabbath, Again

    Warning: this gets personal.

    In the fall of 2014, I stepped way off track. For several preceding years, I had practiced what I called a “secular Sabbath,” a time of peace and connection with myself, nature, and people that mattered. At […]

  • How Is Your Heart Doing?

    “In many Muslim cultures, when you want to ask them how they’re doing, you ask: in Arabic, Kayf haal–ik? or, in Persian, Haal-e shomaa chetoreh? How is your haal?

    What is this haal that you inquire about? It is the transient […]

  • What I Want From Technology

    It’s really difficult to be distracted when you’re in a beautiful place like this one (in Utah’s Canyonlands, where I spent this past weekend). Natural environments easily lend themselves to being present and simply immersed in the experience. Without billboards […]

  • Bitter Medicine

    Sometimes, a dose of your own medicine tastes pretty bitter.

    A friend sent me this card last week amidst an ongoing, very frank conversation about my busy schedule and limited availability (physical, mental and emotional) for meaningful connection. Here’s the reality: […]

  • Exercise Can Make You Less Healthy

    This is me in a COLD glacier-fed lake in the Canadian Rockies in 1991. Growing up, my parents never talked about exercise or calories, but they did deeply value health. We spent a lot of time working in our family’s […]