Nourishment vs. Doughnuts, Orgasms, and Facebook Likes
Choosing nourishment over the fleeting pleasure of doughnuts, orgasms, and Facebook ‘likes’ in a society that runs on junk-food connections is a challenge for all of us.
Humans have basic needs: food, water, sleep, sex, safety from physical or psychological harm.
We crave things that are related to our survival: sugar, salt, fat, sex, social acceptance.
And beyond that, we also long for deeper, more meaningful experiences than the fleeting pleasure of a doughnut or an orgasm or some ogling by an attractive member of our preferred gender (especially on the internet).
Sure, those things are lovely, but they will never, ever satisfy us on their own.
If we lack intimacy, a deep sense of belonging, a purpose, a sense of contribution and accomplishment, or experiences where the Self fades away to make space for something greater, we will chase those fleeting pleasures indefinitely.
This partially explains the phenomenon of chasing likes and followers and views and just generally exhibiting attention-seeking behaviour (especially online).
When you are not deeply connected to your tribe, you’ll seek acceptance and affirmation *anywhere* you can find it.
That unmet need for intimacy and connection will find a way to express itself, and you *will* respond to it.
Biology dictates that.
The good news is that you get to choose how you respond: when you notice yourself seeking attention and affirmation, are you asking for it from people you are deeply connected to within your tribe, or are you seeking it from relative strangers?
When you are hungry (for attention and connection), will you choose a deeply nourishing and satisfying meal, or will you settle for the junk that your short-sighted cravings tell you will feel oh-so-good?