Sometimes, we forget that we’re growing…
Recently, someone who knows me well — both my awesome characteristics and my ugly ones — sat me down and pointed out a behaviour of mine that isn’t very considerate or healthy.
It’s not “wrong” per se, but it made them feel uncomfortable, and despite their observations being delivered in a gentle and considerate manner, goddamn it was hard to not take it all really personally, to feel judged, or to feel criticised and rejected. (I partially succeeded.)
It could have been worse, and Dallas from a year or ten ago would have totally lost his mind, but… I didn’t.
I listened, I clarified, I asked questions, and I admitted the truth that was underneath their concern.
Sometimes, we forget that we are learning and growing because there is still so much potential, so much work yet to be done, and so many imperfections still rearing their ugly heads on a regular basis.
But, what I realised was that, despite me having much more work to do, I’ve come a long way, and that feels good to recognise.
Take a moment and ask yourself, “what have I done recently that I would have handled with less love, compassion, or gentleness a year or two ago?”
If you can’t think of anything, ask yourself this: “what have I done recently that I wish I had done differently, and how can I do it differently next time?”
Sometimes, simple questions do yield simple answers.
Here’s to being better humans together.
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