I’m Tired of Texting

There, I said it: I’m tired of texting. I have a wonderful group of friends, some of whom are spread all over the world, and some of whom live close to me. The world is pretty crazy these days. Everyone is busy, and when I ask someone how they are, most respond with “so busy.” I’ve definitely been guilty of responding that way, too, but I think it’s a total throwaway answer. I get it, you’re busy. So am I. And that is starting to grate on me.

It’s starting to grate on me because, despite “keeping in touch” with some really amazing people, I need more in-person, face-to-face connection. In a discussion earlier this year, some of my closest friends made the case that “quality time” was one of my Love Languages, and I think that they are right. I came to this conclusion by noting how much internal friction is generated when I can’t seem to get some face time (not FaceTime!) with people that matter to me. Said another way, simply keeping in touch via text doesn’t feel like our humanity is being valued.

Now, I’m just as guilty as anyone else of being busy and often defaulting to communicating via text…but I’m developing an intolerance to that. Maybe it’s Digital Intolerance Syndrome (not a real thing, but maybe it should be). Whatever it is, I’m getting burnt out on communicating via alphanumeric characters delivered on an LCD screen. I want to communicate with lingering hugs and home-cooked meals and the wrinkles at the corner of my eye when I’m being mischievous. I bet I’m not the only one. As I say: more social, less media.


Original art by Matthew Zaremba.

Dallas Hartwig is the co-creator of Whole9Life and the Whole30 program. New York Times bestselling author. Free-range human.