• Here’s my reading list for spring 2020

    My spring reading list has a couple of my all-time favorites and some new books that explore love, relationships, and masculinity.

    I’m increasingly interested (and a bit reluctant to admit that I’m interested) in the topic of masculinity, patriarchy, and what it means to “be a man” in today’s world.

    1. For The Love of Men: A…

  • The Cultural Landscape of Trauma

    In this episode of The Living Experiment, Pilar interviews a special guest — clinical therapist and author Resmaa Menakem.

    They talk about the broad and vitally important, social and racial landscape of trauma — from the effect it has on us as individuals to the impact it has on our communities and society.…

  • We’re Back! New Episode of The Living Experiment Podcast

    It’s been almost a year since Pilar and I recorded the last episode of the Living Experiment … a lot has happened for both of us since then.

    We’ve both finished our new books and gone through our own versions of a surprisingly intense year. In this episode, we both talk about our struggles and…

  • Fall – It’s Time to Slow Down

    Monday (Sept. 23) was one of the most important days of the year (but not because it’s the day before my birthday).

    Monday was the first day of fall, and that matters – a lot – because fall is, symbolically speaking, a directional change from the expansion, stimulation, and resultant exhaustion of a long, bright…

  • My solution to loneliness is…

    “Loneliness does not come from having no people around, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”—Carl Gustav JungOne of the most influential experiences of my life was the pervasive childhood sensation of not being listened to or having my experiences…

  • The wisdom of quitting

    Persistence and commitment are admirable, but sometimes it’s time to let go. There’s life-changing wisdom in quitting when you know it’s the right thing to do. And even when you don’t.

    Jobs, relationships, projects, businesses … you name it and I’ve probably quit it. You could even call me an “expert quitter.”

    And one of…

  • I have anxiety. Yeah, me.

    [deep breath, long pause]

    I have anxiety. Yeah, me, Dallas Hartwig.

    This has been a really tough thing for me to admit, since I have  — for most of my life, anyway — self-identified as a really level-headed, easygoing, and resilient man.

    For the first 30-ish years of my life, I dealt with psychological stress really well.

    A demanding grad…

  • How We See the World – The Living Experiment Podcast – Episode 84

    The world seems beyond repair sometimes.

    But, is it really?

    We don’t feel like we can change the big picture.

    Global warming. War. Poverty.

    And maybe we can’t “save” the world.

    But, we can change how we see the world and that lets us decide how to interact with it — without shutting down and ignoring our potential for impact.

    Especially in…

  • What to do about Anxiety!? – Living Experiment Podcast

    Anxiety affects tens of millions of people, leaving them rattled by intrusive thoughts and worries – sometimes to a disabling degree.

    Anxiety has now surpassed depression as America’s number one mental health disorder.

    Pilar and Dallas use the first episode of Season 8 to talk about what you can do about it.

    From simple self-calming techniques…