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  • Purpose vs Pleasure – Where’s the Sweet Spot?

    

    Do you have to give up pleasure to find purpose?

    Is purpose even something we can go out and find?

    Do you believe you can’t make a living doing what you love?

    Dallas and Pilar talk through these questions using everything from the fall of Rome to Nelson Mandela’s writings during incarceration in order to explore how we…

  • People Are Medicine

    Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.” —Bessel van der Kolk

    I have an awesome ongoing discussion series with my insightful friend Baya Voce, and this week, we talked about this exact topic: how mental health—including addiction—is…

  • I’m Tired of Texting

    There, I said it: I’m tired of texting. I have a wonderful group of friends, some of whom are spread all over the world, and some of whom live close to me. The world is pretty crazy these days. Everyone is busy, and when I ask someone how they are, most respond with “so busy.”…

  • Small, Seemingly Insignificant Things

    This is a photo of Gus. I stopped and talked to him in the parking lot of my hotel last night. It was a beautiful evening, and he had the Giants game on the radio. I asked him about his exercise-baseball combination, and he told me that listening to the baseball game was the only…

  • How Is Your Heart Doing?

    “In many Muslim cultures, when you want to ask them how they’re doing, you ask: in Arabic, Kayf haal–ik? or, in Persian, Haal-e shomaa chetoreh? How is your haal?

    What is this haal that you inquire about? It is the transient state of one’s heart. In reality, we ask, “How is your heart doing at this…

  • Exercise Can Make You Less Healthy

    This is me in a COLD glacier-fed lake in the Canadian Rockies in 1991. Growing up, my parents never talked about exercise or calories, but they did deeply value health. We spent a lot of time working in our family’s garden and traveling to the mountains to hike, mountain bike, or canoe. We ended up…

  • Vulnerability Makes You Stronger

    A dear friend and I have an ongoing conversation about vulnerability, which is a word that usually invokes images of touchy-feely self-help stuff and psychotherapy sessions. That’s certainly a quick and easy way to dismiss it. In North America, where we value (the image of) independence above most other things, vulnerability is mostly looked down…

  • Talking To Strangers And Other Terrifying People

    I had a really powerful experience last year. At the gym one morning, a man about my age approached me and introduced himself. He knew who I was from my work on health and nutrition, and he thanked me for my books. We started talking, and within less than five minutes, he confided in me…

  • Sit With Your Loneliness

    “Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.” —Douglas Coupland

    “When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely… Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But…

  • Bone Broth, Shame, And Book Sales

    Shaming is a rotten way to sell things.

    Well, I take that back. It’s actually a spectacular way to sell things, and it’s a well-proven marketing strategy. Preying on people’s fears and insecurities by reminding them of undesirable physical traits makes diet authors, trainers, bloggers and self-styled gurus rich all the time. But I’ll be damned…